Joy for the Journey

Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue....and for many of today’s brides, this is only the beginning! Few celebrations create the excitement, eager anticipation, and attention to detail as weddings. Decision making goes on overdrive as we search for the perfect wedding gown, ideal venue, fabulous food, beautiful flowers and music, and a romantic honeymoon destination.

With all the expectations and activities that come with getting married, it’s easy to feel overextended and exhausted. What are we to do?

Good self-care for you and your future spouse is essential. I’d like to offer four tips to help you lower stress, nurture yourself, and strengthen your relationship as you enter this new phase of life together. Finding joy for the journey can begin now!

1.  Gain perspective. Before leaping into all-out preparation mode, pause and reflect about the deeper significance of this day with your significant other. What if you used this time as a springboard for co-creating a healthy lifestyle that lasts long after the wedding? Practicing open communication, compromise, and conflict resolution builds skills for a lifetime.

2. Exercise. Whether you enjoy running, swimming, biking, Pilates, or yoga, get your heart pumping and your body moving! Exercise clears your mind, boosts your mood, and decreases stress. In turn, your body’s immune, endocrine, and hormone systems achieve better balance so you’ll feel your best.

3. Pay attention to nutrition. Food and beverage for most weddings are over-the-top indulgent and would never meet FDA recommendations for a healthy diet. One special day to indulge is wonderful, but a diet that’s high in sugar, caffeine, saturated fats, and low in nutrients not only wreaks havoc on your waistline, but also negatively impacts your mood.

4. Schedule time each day for reflection, rest, and play. It’s easy to get caught up in the never ending to-do lists, but everyone needs downtime. One of my favorite ways to rejuvenate body, mind, and spirit is Pilates. Pilates trains you to be mindfully in tune with, and accepting of each moment, so you stay calm and centered even in the midst of stress.

I invite you to incorporate these self-care tips into your wedding planning- and into your life, because I’m convinced that the benefits to you will be remarkable.

I wish you and your spouse a fun, wonderful wedding, and a long and happy life together! Enjoy the journey.

*As published in Town & Gown's January 2018 Issue